A single parent whose only child goes to college will likely have a significantly
different experience than that of two parents who still have two or three children
at home. Parents whose child attends a university that is 1,000 miles from home will
likely have a very different experience than parents whose child attends a college
that is 20 miles from home.
Recognize that your child will be going through significant changes during the freshman year of college.
It is a good idea to sit down with your child and talk about the types of changes
he or she is likely to go through and how to handle them. It is also advisable to
discuss changing expectations that you have or that your child may have. For example,
a discussion about changes in house rules is a good idea to have prior to the student
returning home for a school vacation.
Encourage your child to develop a greater level of independence.
For example, if your child has a conflict with a roommate or a professor, your natural
inclination may be to pick up the phone and try to resolve the problem yourself. It
is important that your child learn to resolve adult conflicts in a mature manner.
Encourage your child to attempt to resolve the conflict on his/her own first. You
can help your child by problem solving with them about ways to approach the person
with whom they are having the conflict.
Urge your child to access university support services as needed.
For example, Residential Life has placed a Resident Assistant on each floor to help
students find their way around the university, answer general questions that may arise,
and help residents resolve roommate conflicts. The Center for Counseling and Mental
Health Wellness can assist your child if he or she has difficulty adjusting to the
university. Accessing these services can be a tremendous asset to a freshman student
who is experiencing a problem.
Encourage your child to get involved on campus.
We find that students who are active members of student organizations tend to enjoy
their college years more than those students who are not involved on campus. Joining
one of the many student organizations, participating in intramural sports, or volunteering
for a local charity can ease your child's adjustment to Tennessee Tech.
Recognize that your entire family will go through changes as your child goes to college.
If this is your only child or your last child, you'll suddenly find yourself with more time on your hands than you have had in some time. Investing in a new hobby or resuming an old one, going on a vacation, or taking a class can help ease your adjustment to this transition. If you have other children at home, they will likely have reactions to the change, as well. It is especially important that the lines of communication with all of your children remain open during times of change within your family.
